February 27th, 2010
The Top 4 Flirting Mistakes Men Make
I would like to ask you a question.
Have you ever been stuck in the friend mode with a woman you meet and like, despite all your best romantic efforts?
Do you ever wonder why this happens?
More than likely you did know how to flirt with her properly.
Understand: Flirting is a very important part of the attraction process, and if you do it wrong (or worse yet, not at all!), the odds of blowing your chance with the girl go up significantly.
So why is flirting so important?
The answer is simple: Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!
No sexual tension equals no attraction, when there is not attraction, what does this make you?
That is correct – you’re a friend!
So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.
Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
This is called “mixed signals.”
Your words communicate something different than your actions are communicating.
Some of the more common mistakes of flirting with women that men make may include:
MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious
Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.
And if you haven’t laid the proper groundwork beforehand, chances are the girl is going to reject you.
MISTAKE #2: Not Being Obvious Enough!
If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.
MISTAKE #3: Relying On Words Rather Than Actions
Flirting has a good deal to do with the words you use; however, non-verbal body language is a more powerful method. These are those little things such as, tilting your head, raising an eyebrow or casting a wicked little smile, since they give new meaning to otherwise innocent remarks.
MISTAKE #4: Taking Themselves Too Seriously
Flirting is a lighthearted and fun practice, it is when serious romantic gestures begin that causes the sexual tension to break down.
You are doing something wrong when you or the woman is not having fun while you flirt.
I could list more mistakes like these, but I think you get the idea. So what’s the right way to start flirting?
You’re going to want to use as much sexual innuendo as you can. This is a great way to flirt. But the key here is to be SUBTLE.
So for instance, if you’re at a bar, and the girl you’re with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you’d like something, you could jokingly say – “You’re not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?” (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)
This communicates your interest, it’s insinuating sex, but you’re not coming outright and saying it. It’s implied, and it’s fun, and its light hearted.
Another example may be, when a woman makes a sexy remark, you say to her, Stop trying to tempt me, you vixen, you know I never kiss a woman on the first date.
Do you understand how all this works?
After you begin flirting more often, you will begin to be more apparent concerning your interests, without ever crossing that line.
You will notice how the attraction between you and the woman begins to build. Then one day you find that a harmless bit of flirting has turned into seduction.
The real fun begins at this point.
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